Dammnnn andy thats sad to hear mate, Don't know what to say to help, just cheer up! plenty of mor chicks out there.
Some advice for next time though, ask if she has a boyfriend first off would be a good start lol
And confidence mate, if you got that you can walk upto any fine chick and talk to her and not feel stupid.
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28th January, 2006 at 14:03:23 -
That's bad news, Andy, I sort of know how you feel with the whole building-up-confidence thing. Lots of people can tell a story similar to yours, and that is how life works out sometimes. Sucks I know but you'll get over it, and you'll be more experienced to boot. I guess there's a lesson to be learnt, that you really should find out if a girl you like has a boyfriend earlier on. There's more than one way to ask, and it doesn't have to look like you're coming on to them, just showing an interest. Watch some funny films, go out with your mates and get pissed, go and find a new job, you'll be better in no time.
About a year ago I'd often pop into a garden centre after working hard for a quick drink before making my way back home. This girl working there would catch my eye each time and we'd try not to look at each other. But after a while we would start to wave to each other - and one day (about 6 months later lol) she beckoned me over to her, and we started talking. It was quite obvious that we both fancied each other, and we would meet up there a few times. Then, just before I was to leave for my summer break in France, we had a couple more conversations. She was saying stuff like "you will think of me while you're away, won't you?", which would imply that she was interested. So I then decided to ask her out... for a drink down the pub or something... a coffee maybe? She then told me she already had a boyfriend - but if she were single, she would have asked me out without a second thought.
And that really isn't the kind of news you want to hear. It wasn't the fact that she had a boyfriend that got me upset, but what she said afterwards - she would have asked me out if she were single. To me that's a consolation prize that you don't want. I probably should have asked her first if she were single, like Crystal Clear said - but instead I felt depressed and cut my wrists.
The pain will go though Andy. That saying "time heals all wounds" will always prove to be true. Just make sure you don't do anything like self harming - you've had it worse than I, I suspect.
And to add something - Crystal Clear - It wouldn't be smart to ask if she had a boyfriend first, because then it would look like he was hitting on her, and she would talk less.
Ah yes, I remember those awkward times. The girls your age are intersted in older guys, you're too busy tripping over your own feet trying to make a good impression, etc. Those times pass (thank god).
It's all about getting shot down, tore up, and spit out until it just clicks one day. Females can be forgiving of almost anything (as long as you didn't do it to them, then you're on your own). Be you geek, unemployed, moronic, stupid; it doesn't matter.
A GF will probably make up the space tgf/mmf would nake in your life if they wweren't there. I never wan't to get married
(marriage is a piece of shit thing caused by rommanticicing writers who've never had intercourse in their whole life, even if they're 679 yrs old )
Just this evening/night/morning/whatever I tried ti hook up with a chick.i thought she was interested. "duuuuh!" is the inly suitable answer for the situation. I'm gonna lie down and (not maybe) sleep. I might (possibly) watch cartons until i loose conciousness of egones s but whevr. G'Night Y'all! (I's 7.390 A.M. here btw.)